Personal Effectiveness

The second secret of making a girl or a guy love you is connected with the word "self".

Self-esteem and self-reliance are the keys to your success with the opposite sex. You don't need to be afraid that you will get rejected. There are a lot of people in the world, it's literally (and might be a little rude)to say: "you always have somebody to choose from". This is the big mistake a lot of young people make when they fall in love with somebody.

Here is an example. Let's imagine that you stand in a street and would like to catch a taxi to get you to your destination point. An old car stops with a strange looking driver who wants to give you a ride. Would you agree (keeping in mind than in a minute a two a much more better car will stop with a handsome driver)? The same thing happens to us in life. We are often ready to grab what looks the best at a first glance, because of our fear that nothing better is waiting for us ahead.

Why did I tell you that example? Because I want you to understand that you are not alone, the world is full of opportunities waiting for you and all you have to do is to reach your hand and take them. Here should be the roots of your self-reliance. You should know "how much your price is" and never put it down.

Seeing this people will respect you more. You set the boundaries - what is allowed to this person in his/her actions concerning you and what is not. This is also a quality of good leaders. One of the roots of love is attitude.

However keep in mind that you have to keep the balance of the level of your self-esteem. If you exaggerate your efforts people will turn away from you. Be natural. Know your rights and don't let a girl or a guy feel that he or she is somehow superior than you are. This is your life, you are the master of it, and only you are responsible for the decisions you take.

So the second important principle of making a person love you is the attitude which is formed from your own attitude to yourself.

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