Personal Effectiveness

The 3rd secret principle of making a girl (or a guy) fall in love with you is your appearance.

In order to attract a woman (or a man) and make her for in love with you you need to be attractive or to become attractive. Even if you are not Brad Pitt or Ashton Catcher you can still make the most out of your appearance following the following simple advice which I’m going to give to you.

Men pay attention to the whole figure at first then switch to the details. Women pay attention to the details first.

Here are the things that women pay attention to in men:
Clean shoes, clean washed hair, good teeth and fresh breathing, well-cut nails.

Things that men pay attention to in women:
Face, legs, breast. Then other smaller details, like clothes or haircut.

The first impression is a very dangerous thing. It is formed in some 30 seconds after you meet a new person. During this period you believe your senses and your brain makes a decision whether you would like to date this person or not. Your eyes get about 90% of all the information form the environment. Your ears hear and analyze the pitch of the voice and the manner of speaking. Your nose detects the kind of odour that comes from the person. Your mind works better than any known computer analyzing the information about the person and associating it with the permanent data stored in your brain from your previous life experience.

The key rule here is: you have to keep the balance and not to go too far.
Buy yourself a good cologne. Azzaro Chrome or Fahrenheitcologne works well for me but I don’t know about you – every cologne is individual. Put a very little amount of the cologne onto the inner sides of your wrists and onto your throat (the places where veins are, the waves of odour will spread with pulse).

Buy some good clothes during sales periods. In any case your closes may not be expensive but it must look tidy.

Pay an extreme attention to your posture and your gestures. They are of great importance. Your posture can describe you either as a winner or as a loser. Your gestures convey and express your inner state – your task is to convey your self-esteem and your self-confidence. That’s why you need to learn how to use correct gestures. Notice, what gestures politicians use in TV shows. Read some good books on gestures, I recommend these books: The Definitive Book of Body Languageand What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People.

Ok, so now you have learnt the third secret of mine of how to make the other person fall in love with you. 7 more to go. Please, share your thoughts in comments.

The second secret of making a girl or a guy love you is connected with the word "self".

Self-esteem and self-reliance are the keys to your success with the opposite sex. You don't need to be afraid that you will get rejected. There are a lot of people in the world, it's literally (and might be a little rude)to say: "you always have somebody to choose from". This is the big mistake a lot of young people make when they fall in love with somebody.

Here is an example. Let's imagine that you stand in a street and would like to catch a taxi to get you to your destination point. An old car stops with a strange looking driver who wants to give you a ride. Would you agree (keeping in mind than in a minute a two a much more better car will stop with a handsome driver)? The same thing happens to us in life. We are often ready to grab what looks the best at a first glance, because of our fear that nothing better is waiting for us ahead.

Why did I tell you that example? Because I want you to understand that you are not alone, the world is full of opportunities waiting for you and all you have to do is to reach your hand and take them. Here should be the roots of your self-reliance. You should know "how much your price is" and never put it down.

Seeing this people will respect you more. You set the boundaries - what is allowed to this person in his/her actions concerning you and what is not. This is also a quality of good leaders. One of the roots of love is attitude.

However keep in mind that you have to keep the balance of the level of your self-esteem. If you exaggerate your efforts people will turn away from you. Be natural. Know your rights and don't let a girl or a guy feel that he or she is somehow superior than you are. This is your life, you are the master of it, and only you are responsible for the decisions you take.

So the second important principle of making a person love you is the attitude which is formed from your own attitude to yourself.

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